Why You Need Counseling Before Marriage

By Jeannie Chapman


Marriage is an institution that every individual looks forward to get into. It is always smooth when couples are in relationships as most of the behaviors are reserved at this time. After marriage, things that you did not see before and those that you probably would not like, start to spring up. For this reason and others, couples may find that they are not prepared to stay together. Quarrels and fights in the family are some of the reasons why couples should seek counseling before and after marriage instead of separating.

There are several types of counseling and counselors for different stages of every relationship. Premarital counseling is meant for couples that are looking forward to tying the knot. Though it is not mandatory for couples to attend this program, it is greatly recommended. In cases where the couples have different religious beliefs, the counselors come in handy in offering sound advice on how to respect the beliefs of your partner while still maintain the spark in the marriage.

Since marriage is a lifelong commitment, it is important to make sure you are getting married for all the right reasons. A marriage counselor takes you through the expectations and responsibilities of the couple. A marriage counselor also gives the couple advice on how to relate with other married couples and the in-laws. This is very vital because it is practically extending your family to accommodate a second set of parents and siblings.

Counselors also come in handy in situations when the relationship is a little different from the normal. In relationships where one person has psychological disorders or physical disabilities, the other person has to learn to accommodate their partners and their needs. This includes making sacrifices in their lifestyles and learning to put the needs of the other party and the marriage before theirs. It is also important for people who have health issues. In cases where one of the couple has a drug abuse problem, psychoanalysis is very necessary.

There are different types of psychoanalysis available for engaged couples. The first type is premarital psychoanalysis which can be recommended by law or the faith of the couples. The law requires couples to be counseled on family planning, finances, communication, legal requirements of marriage among others. The faith-based psychoanalysis revolves around matters concerning the role of religion in marriage, how they are to relate to each other and God and the contribution of church in the growth of their marriage.

Another very common type of psychoanalysis therapy counseling. This one deals mostly with substance abuse or where one or both of the partners are hooked on drugs. In this kind of psychoanalysis the couple is advised on how to stay clean and support each other through the withdrawal period. It also involves helping the couple handle the emotional stress from previous relationships or abuse.

There is also general psychoanalysis which covers almost every aspect of life. Problems that may arise as a result of reduced finances are also addressed under this type of psychoanalysis. Parenting and family ones also fall under this category.

Counseling has done a tremendous job in saving breaking marriages in the last few years, and even now, it cannot be overlooked. You can seek help from offices permitted to officiate marriages or church on how to undergo this program. At the end of the day, you will be equipped well to start the journey of marriage with a common goal.




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